When You Don't Get What You Want

May 5, 2016

You know that disappointment of not receiving that gift you really wanted for Christmas? or the one thing you asked for for your birthday? or not receiving the raise you had pushed for for the last few months? or the "wrong" answer to your prayer? Yes, that disappointment. 
There is not only disappointment but a lot of times anger. Anger rises when the answer you want isn't received. When the answer you so badly needed now, did not appear quick enough. Notice how much I said "you" instead of God in those last two sentences. We get angry and blame that on God. We get angry and forget our purpose as sons and daughters of Christ. We forget to listen before we react. We confuse ourselves when we don't get what we want by saying "God didn't answer my prayer".  
Many times we take the passage of Matthew 7:7 out of context: 

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."

Simple, right? Ask and you will receive what you want. No, ask and you will receive what is best for God's plan for you. Prayer is not just a vending machine, and we put in a little bit of change to receive what we want. Prayer is a two way conversation -- not just a one way where we can ask and ask and ask and not give anything back. He wants our praise. He wants our joy to be His joy (John 15:11).

I remember asking God for certain healing and not getting the answer I wanted. I wanted something that I knew God had the power to give. I knew that God was an all powerful God. Why should I even of asked if I didn't get the answer I wanted? Why should've I even bothered? I am a daughter of the King. Why am I asked to pray when there is a chance I will receive disappointment? I was fighting a battle with the illusion that I was wronged. I was fighting the battle that did not only leave me with pain but also a lack of faith. I did not look at the bigger picture and how God would transform my life through this trial. 

In the moment where I was throwing my stone at Christ, I remembered "God is good". While my trust was wavering, my God was working. He was working in my life. Our life is God's vessel. We are His hands and feet. We are the tools in His toolbox. I remembered when I accepted Christ as my Lord I said "not my will, but yours be done". If our hearts align with God's and we are focused on God, then most likely the answer we are looking for is the answer God will give. He wants us to delight in Him -- be growing and falling more in love with Jesus. If we start focusing on Him and knowing Him more, we will walk the path of His. Our desires will become His desires. Our thoughts will become His thoughts.

Sometimes we getting an even harder answer -- wait. Patience is definitely not a virtue I have yet to possess wholly. Waiting is so hard for me. As humans living in this century, it is only natural for us t get what we want now. Because of the fast-pace technology we have, we are use to getting a quick response. If God is asking you to wait, that doesn't mean no. It means that there is a perfect time for the answer. It means God is intentionally giving us time to grow. As I wait for God to put me out on the mission field, I have this time to get to know Him more. I have this time to explore His Word and dig deeper so that I can fulfill His plan for me.

God loves and wants to answer our prayer. He loves us enough to answer us to protect us. He knows so much more than us. We may not know why He said "no" to this specific prayer, but we should know that God is protecting us. God never makes a bad decision. He never mistakes. He always answers. 

While we may not always get that answer of healing, for the raise, for the restoration that we asked for, we can be assured that God has this awesome plan Yeah, it is hard. It's hard to understand. We aren't all-knowing, but we have an awesome God who is.
What do you do when you don't get what you want? You trust God and remember that His plan for you is perfect and is best for your future (Jeremiah 29:11).

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